From lovers to good friend? How to deal with the person who used to bethe most important person.

"Love is hard, beak up is also hard"

Break up is not as simple. Because of hard to let go, memories that used to be together, might be with you forever. Once the end of a relationship, how would you deal with these "love heritage"? Which position should we put the person who used to be the closest and the most familiar to?

1. Become a friend that know each other the most

Because of used to be each other's soul mate and walk through so many journey together, you all familiar with each other's habits and interests. Once not lover anymore, won't you still feel like talk to him/ her about what you feel and think deep inside sometimes?

There's not much people who can be friends after being a lovers in the world, but then this might be the best path for both of you. Although because of some reason you can't become good lovers, but how many people would walk into your life like this in a lifetime? Not much people can do this to you. 

2. Don't meet each other in this lifetime anymore

Don't see don't think, no matter still have feeling towards him/ her of not, isn't it don't see then won't feel?

Delete photos, unfriend, even unfriend your mutual friend with him/her, then everything will be settle right? Every break up is like a lost of memory, after every break up it's born of a person that you won't want to know him and talk to him anymore, places that you won't go anymore, and things that you won't do anymore. 

It seems the most simple and straight forward, but it's like bombs hiding underground. You thought you have fully forgotten, but sometimes might just accidentally step to the bomb.  

3. Continue flirting

Because of love, you and he/her walk together, although because of some reasons you breakup, but the characteristic that addict you are still there. 

Maybe before meeting the next person that you addict to, you will still talk to him/her in the way you all used to, you still want to make him/her love you. But then most of this situation will be worse than before you break up with him/her. This might bring you and him/her into a more trouble and messed up situation. 

4. Not thinking of let go him/her and be cured at this moment

Some people enjoy the "flirting part" before him/her fall in love, some people enjoy the "heartbreaking part" after breaking up. After breaking up, everything messed up, for somebody he/she might not want to back to normal routine of his/her life so soon. 

Love a person but couldn't hold hands to the end, or even he/her just want to love him/her but can't. In this situation that full of regret, he/her might just want to stay in this feeling at this moment. 

Think about the memories that you used to be together with him/her, could you still choose to erase everything like it didn't happen?(unless you've met an asshole)

All those memories are still part of you, there's nobody else can erase your memory. 

So, no matter what position you put the person that used to be the most important person in your life to, it's normal that sometimes it just appears in your mind. It's okay, although sometimes still feel a little bit of ache :)

心結

有些事情可以解釋固然很好，但什麼事都要交代清楚的習慣需要改變了。本來覺得有事情只要說出來就好了；就算不說出來也好，時間會解決的。但原來不是這樣的。

該解決的不會解決的要和對的人說，兩個頭腦總比一個頭腦想得多。原來很多問題都可以解決的，不一定要委屈求全。遷就多了很累，而且到最後也不一定是自己想要的結果。試過了，適合就好；不適合，怎樣也是要學會放開。學業感情人生都是這樣。

難過了就哭；開心就笑；累了就休息；寂寞了就找家人朋友，不過如此。

兩年的努力不能說要放就放得下；半年多的感情不能說要捨就捨得。但也總不能藕斷絲連，要就要；不要就不要，對吧？

話雖如此，但說得容易，要做總是那麼難。

也不知道應該說自己堅強還是懦弱。堅強是總是那麼難過都還是熬過來了；懦弱是總是難過受傷學會痊癒卻還是繼續著這個循環。不敢說自己經歷得特別多特別坎坷，只是自己是個特別敏感的人，受傷比別人多，自然成長也比較快。

到底是荷爾蒙讓我開心不起來所以才那麼悲觀還是我真的就是那麼悲觀呢？只知道好像只要喝了咖啡之後心情比較愉快就感覺一切都會好起來，一切問題都可以解決。但同時也不敢每天喝，好怕哪天咖啡就沒辦法再給我這樣的力量了。

其實自己要的生活是那麼簡單。不需要有很厲害的事業，只求有一個很美滿的家庭；不需要很富有，只要充滿愛，開心就行。但這樣看似簡單的事情在現在這個年代似乎很難實現。大家都有自己的生活壓力，還會有人記得怎麼去愛自己愛別人嗎？

自己都愛不了自己了，要怎麼得到別人的愛呢？

You told me that she won't want to talk to you anymore because everytime you see her you will question her something that she doesn't like. But then after that I saw the post she tagged you about something funny and I tell you, hey, she didn't don't want to talk to you la, see what she tag you~ and you didn't say anything about you and her anymore. And then the next day, I saw you tag her something.

Finally.

Few weeks ago I told you the way she talk to you was flirty and I angry at you, you question me oh, she flirts at me and that's my wrong? Then I really thought about it, maybe I'm wrong. 

But then now I really don't know what am I doing here. I be with you after you break up with her, but now I feel like I'm the third person. What the hack? And I tell you that I can't continue be with you like this, I don't want a relationship like this, I feel hurt. And you tell me I will forever be your important person. And you still show me how much you care about me.

I said if I cannot be with you I cannot be friend with you because it will keep hurting me and I cannot let go, and you tell me you will always be there for me.

You are so good at convincing people. Then I thought maybe be friend is fine. Maybe someday you will forget about her and come back to me. But then what are you doing there? You show me that you still like me and interested in me when you be with me, but then you still flirting with her over there. You told me you don't want let people see we are together, so that I didn't tag you and share you things in front of people when I see anything funny. And you and her keep sharing and tagging here and there. What do you want me to do? What do you want me to feel?

I'm almost crazy now. I can't really control my emotion anymore. My mood goes up and down everyday out of my control. Can you tell me what you want? If you still miss her can you just tell me and let me go? Don't care if I'll become a vegetable or not, please.

哈咯，我回來了。

一切都結束了，

覺得自己很厲害，

因為是我自己選擇離開的。

和很要好的朋友講起這件事，

她問我，

為什麼是你說的還那麼難過？

很簡單啊，

因為我離開的原因不是因為不喜歡他了。

本來在一起是很開心的事，

卻因為生活上的壓力和各種各樣的心結鬧得越來越不開心。

大姐告訴我其實在一起最重要是開心，

你卻告訴我其實你感覺到你看到的我一次比一次不開心。

可能我不會想去害人的事，

但我也不是一個心理素質很好的女生。

漸漸的，

我也發現到我以前的心理毛病回來了。

或許離開是對兩個人都好的。

只是大家都很難過就對了。

-看我部落格的朋友不要怪他好嗎？

 他也是受過傷才會變成這樣，

 他自己也很內疚很難過。

 而且是我說服他要在一起的，

 現在也是我自己要離開的。-

才在一起幾個月，

已經學到很多東西了。

怎樣好好和別人溝通

怎樣珍惜友情

怎樣感受音樂等等等等。

這些對一般人來說自己學會的東西，

我卻是因為他才學會的。

謝謝你把我從自己的世界帶出去。

謝謝你教我如何當一個女孩。

兩個鼓手在一起真的很棒，
一起打太鼓，
一起討論鼓的東西 教小孩子的東西 等等等等。
以後應該不會那麼剛好再有這樣的男朋友了吧 哈哈

好可惜哦。
如果時機再好一點的話，
如果我們大家都可以退一步的話，
我們應該可以有超級棒的關係吧。

哈哈好了好了
再寫下去就不捨得離開了。

還有還有，

希望之前問我和他有沒有在一起的朋友不要生氣我說沒有。

不是要騙你，

只是因為我們大家都知道我們的感情不穩定，

告訴大家在一起了如果分開了大家的關心會不小心變成負擔的。

在這裡和你們道歉，

希望你們會理解。

所以所以如果可以的話，
看了我的部落格也要假裝什麼都不知道，
自己收着就好了哦～

也不是要交代什麼，
只是還是覺得部落格是一個很好表達自己的地方。

所以就這樣咯，
沒有然後了 :'>

-----------------------------------------------------我是分隔線-----------------------------------------------------

唉 本來想放一點照片的不過還是算了。

太多本來可以在部落格盡情發表的東西都不敢再寫再放了。

嘻嘻 還是偷偷放一張喜歡的

好吧 掰掰，有緣再見了 :'>